“Oh my God, she has such a huge ego!”
Have you ever found yourself saying these words about someone? Or maybe someone has said them about you? Either way, there is a major misunderstanding out there about what exactly an ego is and whether or not having one is a good or bad thing.
Ok, this might get a little trippy, so hold onto something!
I want you to think back to one of your most embarrassing high school memories. You know, the one that makes you want to hide under the couch, even though it’s been years since it happened. Ok, got it?
What if I told you that your memory of that event might not have been as bad as you remember it? Actually, it might have only been a fraction as embarrassing as it is in your memory. You might scoff and say that you remember it as clear as glass. But the reality could be entirely different.
I think one of the biggest lies of modern society is that we are more connected than ever.
If the internet has brought the world together, then why do so many people feel isolated? Yes, we have friends and family, but we often don’t connect with them in the way that we wish. This leaves us feeling alone, like we are in our own little bubble. This sense of loneliness has permeated our culture, making us desperate for human contact; to feel like we are part of something greater than ourselves.
Many, many years ago, human beings existed in smaller social groups. Rather than the millions of people that surround us today, we lived in smaller societies of hundreds. We knew everyone, and that closeness fostered a sense of community, a sense of belonging to the group. For the most part, we’ve lost this in modern society. It’s easy to feel like we’re just one in a countless sea of millions upon millions of people.
Thankfully, this social isolated in an age of supposed unparalleled connection does have a solution. You need to go out and find your tribe! But how will that help, you ask?
There’s an old saying that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, and in many ways, this observation is true. Our family of origin plays a huge role in how we turn out as adults. Take physical traits, for example. Mom has dark hair and brown eyes; daughter will often have dark hair and brown eyes. But when it comes to the way you interact with and relate to others, the emotional patterns set in place during childhood by your parents or other caregivers doesn’t have to be the patterns you choose as an adult with your own family or relationships, particularly if they were painful, abusive, unresponsive, detached, judgmental, abusive, etc. Read more
Somatic Experiencing®—sounds complicated, and you might be wondering how it works, but the truth is, Somatic Experiencing isn’t complicated at all. In fact, Somatic Experiencing is a system of therapy designed to help you heal from trauma and process multiple kinds or sources of stress, from an isolated stressful event to PTSD to abuse to chronic daily stress through movements. Read more
I’m a Houston based Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and certified in marriage counseling, with more than 20 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and families. As a Relational & Trauma Specialist, I can help you with relationship problems, infidelity, trauma, loss and overwhelm. One therapy session can make a big difference.
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