When should we go to couples therapy?
When you are experiencing a crisis in your relationship, or you are arguing about the same issues over and over without a resolution, you should consider counseling. If you have lost trust in your partner due to betrayal and you can’t navigate your way back to a healthy relationship.
If you have recently discovered that your partner has had an affair, has a secret life or is suffering from an addiction and your life is shattered.
When you and your partner generally have a good relationship and are experiencing communications problems and are growing apart therapy can help renew your love.
What is infidelity?
Infidelity is being unfaithful to a spouse or partner. There has to be a commitment and assumption between partners that each will remain monogamous and that neither partner will seek external sources to meet his/her intimate needs. There are partnerships that are destroyed due to the severity of betrayal. There are also partnerships that are able to transcend the betrayal, learn from it and grow stronger. I would encourage you to talk about it with someone other than the affair partner. Preferably a trained professional with experience counseling couples who are dealing with betrayal and infidelity in their relationship.
What is your approach to healing trauma?
I offer holistic trauma-informed care that seeks to foster your embodied healing, growth and self-expression from the inside out-mind, body, spirit and relationships. You are not crazy. It’s not what is wrong with you- it’s what happened to you. It is how you have coped and adapted to survive life’s stressors and traumas. Our mental and physical health is interconnected. Chronic stress, traumatic events and poor attention from our caregivers as children, abuse, neglect as well as other overwhelming life situations can cause emotional trauma. You may have found yourself resorting to unhealthy coping strategies to manage pain, distress, emptiness or shame within.
Trauma and stress create dysregulation, disconnection and fragmentation. Most of these issues can be simplified and reframed to foster reconnection and healing.